FRIEND TOUR FINALE: CALIFORNIA
On my final stop of the friend tour, I went to California to be reacquainted with a good friend. So much had happened between the last times we spoke. She became pregnant. I went through a divorce. She had her first child. I wrote a book. Needless to say, there was so much to catch up on!
What I have always loved about her was her big heart! She loves fiercely! She laughs from the deepest part of her being. She makes everyone feel good around her while also living in her truth unapologetically. And the truth was that I originally planned this trip for redemption. I was absent during her pregnancy and I regretted not being around for this milestone.
Yet, our time together felt like any other time we spent together. We laughed. We played. We reminisced on our college days. But things were different. Our conversations were rich and laced with the type of depth that only comes from living life. I even poured out my heart at a bar in the middle of the day (not under the influence lol) and she shared a perspective I had not considered before.
So in a way, it felt like we had never lost anything at all. Our relationship had matured and evolved with the passing of time. We were no longer the foolish girls we were in college. We were not even the young ladies who were trying to find our way. But time had allowed us to grow more compassionate. Whats more? It was such an amazing experience observing her in her new role as mom. The interactions with her son brought out a side of her that I was introduced to for the first time. Those moments were simply priceless!
Now that I think about it, maybe redemption was the common theme from all of the stops on the friend tour. I wanted my friends in Arizona, Washington, and California to know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I love them and appreciate them. These three friends, in particular, had sacrificed themselves in one way or another to make me happy when it mattered most. That alone is enough to draw me to wherever they are.